Change the location where the rpc_xprt structure is allocated so each
transport implementation can allocate a private area from the same
chunk of memory.

Note also that xprt->ops->destroy, rather than xprt_destroy, is now
responsible for freeing rpc_xprt when the transport is destroyed.

Test plan:
Connectathon.
Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <Trond.Myklebust@netapp.com>